Have a New Husband by Friday

How to Change His Attitude, Behavior and Communication in 5 Days

by Kevin Leman

4.3(511 ratings)

11 min read

Brief overview

This book shows you how small but intentional changes in your daily approach can transform a marriage. It explores the subtle dynamics that make men thrive and offers practical tips to bring back warmth, cooperation, and affection. By focusing on respect, understanding, and genuine connection, you can renew the bond and develop a deeper intimacy in just a few days.

Introduction

Everyone hopes marriage will stay as thrilling as the honeymoon stage. Yet real life enters, bringing stress, daily routines, and miscommunication. Over time, couples often slip into habits that create distance instead of closeness.

This book suggests that a simple shift in perspective can bring about big changes. By understanding how men operate—their upbringing, sense of competitiveness, and need for affirmation—you can help your relationship flourish.

You’ll find that even small acts of attention and genuine respect go far in inspiring him to reciprocate. It’s about working together, building each other up, rather than on your own. Both partners will feel valued when you embrace each other’s differences.

These initial pages set the stage. If you’re ready to see transformations by the end of the week, it starts with a willingness to recognize that relationships are two-way and that respect, kindness, and a little bit of fun can breathe new life into your home.

Big changes often come from the smallest shifts in approach.

Why Respect Matters

One of the core messages in this book is how crucial respect is for men. Society sometimes paints them as bumbling or clueless, and that stereotype chips away at their confidence. At home, small signs of disrespect can have a huge impact.

When you show respect for your husband, you remind him he’s valued. Even small gestures—thanking him for a task, acknowledging his efforts—reinforce his sense of worth. Dismissing him or constantly second-guessing can have the opposite effect.

This isn’t about ignoring your own needs. Quite the contrary; when a man feels respected, he’s more likely to step up. He’ll feel motivated to support and protect, rather than withdraw. A respectful tone fosters a partnership instead of resentment.

If treating him with respect doesn’t come naturally right now, think of it as an experiment. Try banishing sarcastic remarks or belittling comments. Replace them with words that show appreciation. Notice how he responds over just a few days.

Respect is a two-way street: giving it often encourages it to return your way.

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What is Have a New Husband by Friday about?

"Have a New Husband by Friday: How to Change His Attitude, Behavior and Communication in 5 Days" is a transformative guide crafted by renowned psychologist and relationship expert, Kevin Leman. This insightful tome delves into subtly recalibrating the dynamics of marriage, focusing on respect, communication, and emotional intelligence. By dissecting the intricacies of male psychology, Leman offers readers a pragmatic approach to strengthening relationships and reviving romantic commitments.

The book spotlights respect and understanding as the keystones of a thriving partnership. Through compelling anecdotes and actionable insights, Leman reveals how even modest changes, paired with commitment, can dismantle long-standing patterns of resentment or frustration. Modern couples, weary of monotony, will find this book invaluable—a roadmap to rekindling the love and restoring the partnership's vitality.

From exploring the subtleties of communication to re-establishing emotional intimacy, Leman's work is a vital resource for anyone seeking a deeper, more rewarding connection with their partner. "Have a New Husband by Friday" pitches itself not merely as a quick fix but as a blueprint to foster enduring marital happiness.

Review of Have a New Husband by Friday

Kevin Leman's "Have a New Husband by Friday" stands out due to its wealth of relatable scenarios and its no-nonsense approach to marital advice. One of the key strengths of the book is its ability to blend theory with practical applications, making it accessible and actionable for readers from varying walks of life. With clear examples, Leman elucidates how small gestures of respect can lead to significant changes in a husband’s behavior—a revelation that many couples might find immediately practical.

The book excels in setting realistic expectations for couples. It avoids sugarcoating challenges but instead emphasizes the importance of personal responsibility and mutual respect. Leman employs a writing style that is straightforward yet warm, ensuring that the guidance feels like wise counsel from a trusted friend rather than a strict dictum. This tone makes the book an inviting read for spouses who may feel skeptical or defensive about relationship advice.

Through its engaging narrative, this book speaks to partners who are keen on rediscovering their partner's potential while enjoying their everyday partnership. Although tailored primarily towards women, its suggestions are equally beneficial for both genders. "Have a New Husband by Friday" is a recommended read for anyone eager to nurture a loving and balanced relationship, rooted in respect and effective communication.

Who should read Have a New Husband by Friday?

Wives seeking to enhance their marital relationships will find actionable advice to foster understanding and communication.
Couples experiencing prolonged staleness in their marriage will benefit from fresh perspectives and practical solutions.
Marriage counselors looking for literature that highlights the emotional framework between couples will find it insightful.
First-time spouses wanting to preemptively iron out common misunderstanding pitfalls can find guidance in this book.
Individuals interested in psychology and relational dynamics who appreciate a blend of theory and practical advice will be engaged.

About the author

Dr. Kevin Leman is a renowned Christian psychologist, author, and speaker. He holds a Bachelor's degree in psychology from the University of Arizona, where he also earned his Master's and Doctorate degrees. Dr. Leman has written over 60 books, including "Have a New Kid by Friday," and has appeared on numerous television and radio programs such as The View, Today, and Good Morning America. He is the founder of Leman Academy of Excellence and has received the Alumni Achievement Award from the University of Arizona and the Distinguished Alumnus Award from North Park University.