No More Mr. Nice Guy

A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life

by Robert A. Glover

4.6(14,775 ratings)

12 min read

Brief overview

This book explores why being overly nice often backfires, leading to hidden resentments, struggles in relationships, and unfulfilled needs. It shows how to drop people-pleasing habits and grow into a more confident, authentic version of yourself. By learning to set healthy boundaries and reclaim personal power, you'll become more satisfied in every area of life.

Introduction

Have you ever felt like you’re always tiptoeing around everyone else’s needs while yours remain invisible? If so, you may relate to the journey in these pages. We’ll uncover how a desire to be liked can actually become a self-sabotaging trap, leaving you feeling frustrated and misunderstood.

This tendency often starts early, when we decide it's safer to push our own needs aside to avoid conflict or abandonment. Over time, we become the so-called “nice guy,” the one who’s always doing for others. Yet, on the inside, many feel resentful, anxious, and stuck.

In the chapters ahead, you’ll see that letting go of constant people-pleasing doesn’t make you selfish—it frees you to be more genuinely loving and open. Together, we’ll explore a fresh perspective on how to speak up, relax into real intimacy, and break unhealthy patterns.

Consider this introduction your starting point. If you’ve ever thought, “I’m such a nice person, so why aren’t things easier?”—you’re in the right place. Let’s question that old approach and discover a new one built on honesty, assertiveness, and mutual respect.

Real confidence begins when you stop hiding your true self.

The Trap of Pleasing Everyone

“Nice guys” make an art out of pleasing people. They listen intently, offer help, and strive never to rock the boat. On the surface, this seems ideal—but it can diminish genuine connections and leave everyone guessing who you really are.

When you’re chasing approval, you base self-worth on people’s reactions—smiles, compliments, or perceived acceptance. The moment a potential argument appears, you swerve away, hoping to keep everything smooth. But genuine closeness requires honesty, including awkward disagreements.

Think about it: If you’re forever flexible, you end up contorting into shapes that don’t fit you. Over time, the people around you can sense the inauthenticity. They might like your helpfulness, but they miss out on your real opinions and personality.

Recognizing this trap is the first step to escaping it. The goal isn’t to become rude; it’s to realize that over-accommodation can exhaust you and keep others at arm’s length. In place of constant compliance, you’re allowed to speak up, set boundaries, and give in ways that feel genuine.

People value honest connection more than polite distance.

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What is No More Mr. Nice Guy about?

This insightful guide delves into the hidden costs of being overly accommodating, showing how the compulsion to please can undermine true happiness. Drawing on psychological insights and real-life examples, No More Mr. Nice Guy explains why striving for approval often results in disappointment and quietly erodes self-confidence. Readers gain tools for letting go of people-pleasing behaviors and stepping into a healthier, more authentic form of masculinity.

The author emphasizes the importance of healthy boundaries, honest communication, and self-acceptance. By reclaiming personal power, men can transition from drained and resentful to fulfilled and self-assured. Beneath its focus on male identity, this book provides universal lessons on self-worth and interpersonal growth. Its message resonates with anyone who has ever felt pressured to suppress personal needs to keep the peace.

Combining practical advice with empathy, No More Mr. Nice Guy aims to help readers challenge old conditioning, build richer relationships, and achieve a deeper sense of well-being. It serves as a roadmap for anyone seeking genuine confidence and authentic connections, both at home and beyond.

Review of No More Mr. Nice Guy

No More Mr. Nice Guy excels at pinpointing ingrained patterns that keep individuals trapped in approval-seeking cycles. One of its standout strengths is the author’s approachable tone, which marries clear psychological guidelines with everyday scenarios. Readers discover actionable steps—such as redirecting their focus onto self-care and developing honest communication habits—that can spark genuine transformation in relationships.

Equally impressive is its focus on practical strategies: readers learn how to set healthy boundaries, confront childhood influences, and take full ownership of their lives. The writing is direct and accessible, woven with personal anecdotes and case studies that appeal to both first-time readers of self-help material and more experienced audiences. This blend of relatable stories and useful insights ensures the book remains highly relevant to modern life.

Anyone facing stalled personal growth, especially men who feel overshadowed by the need to be “nice,” will find it eye-opening. No More Mr. Nice Guy ultimately offers a refreshing challenge: reclaim your individuality without discarding kindness, and start forging meaningful connections built on respect. It comes recommended for those ready to shift from passive frustration to self-assured action.

Who should read No More Mr. Nice Guy?

Men who feel stuck in people-pleasing roles and want healthier confidence
Professionals seeking to improve their leadership style through assertiveness
Individuals exploring relationship-based self-help resources for personal growth
Therapists and life coaches who need insight into male identity and boundary issues

About the author

Dr. Robert A. Glover is a renowned author, marriage and family therapist, and life coach. He holds extensive experience in helping men overcome the "Nice Guy Syndrome," a condition he defines as trying too hard to please others while neglecting one's own needs. With over two decades of experience, Dr. Glover has worked with thousands of men and women, and his book "No More Mr. Nice Guy" has been translated into multiple languages and sold hundreds of thousands of copies. He is also the founder of TPI University and has written "Dating Essentials for Men: The Only Dating Guide You Will Ever Need."